Mini Review: “I Am Ace: Advice on Living Your Best Asexual Life” by Cody Daigle-Orians

Release Date: February 21, 2023
Publisher: Jessica Kingsley Publishers
Genre: Non-Fiction


How do I know if I’m actually sexual?

How do I come out as asexual?

What kinds of relationship can I have as an ace person?

If you are looking for answers to these questions, Cody is here to help. Within these pages lie all the advice you need as a questioning ace teen.

Tackling everything from what asexuality is, the asexual spectrum and tips on coming out, to intimacy, relationships, acephobia and finding joy, this guide will help you better understand your asexual identity alongside deeply relatable anecdotes drawn from Cody’s personal experience.

Whether you are ace, demi, gray-ace or not sure yet, this book will give you the courage and confidence to embrace your authentic self and live your best ace life.

My Thoughts

Like a lot of people, I came to Ace Dad Advice through TikTok. I didn’t particularly need ace advice—I’ve been out and proudly ace/aro for nearly a decade—but at the time he was one of the only out ace- or aro-spec creators I’d seen on the app. 

Daigle-Orians’ does a good job of providing concise, easy to understand definitions and descriptions about many aspects of being ace. It feels like essay versions of his videos, which I think will work well for young adults. And I appreciated that he began this book with his personal experience of figuring things out and coming out. These stories were crucial for me in understanding my own identity. There were a few areas where it would’ve helped to have some additional perspectives. For many aces, our intersectional identities (being neurodivergent, disabled, Black, genderqueer, etc) directly impact and are impacted by also being ace. Not exploring that made the book a little shallower than it probably needed to be. But like I said, it’s a good introduction and will be beneficial to people new to the identity and young people looking for guidance.

A good addition to library collections aimed at young adults and middle schoolers.

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